How do I know if I’ve had an orgasm?

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Q: I don't know if this is a weird question or not, but how do you know if you've had an orgasm? I've not had a lot of partners and while sex feels nice, I don't know if I've ever actually come. How do you know!?

So while it's almost impossible to know whether everyone experiences orgasms the same way, there are a few things you should look out for to know if you've actually climaxed, or are just feeling some nice sensations that, while yes, are nice, aren't the toe curling, sheet ripping experiences you've heard about.

The main thing is the climax itself. The rise and rise and rise of sensation until there is a relieving release of tension where all that sensation bangs out of you into one big, satisfying release. Think of it like a sneeze. You know when you've just had a nose tickle that's gone away, and you definitely know when you've sneezed.

There are some physical signs that usually accompany that feeling of both climaxing and orgasming too, and they're mostly involuntary. 

The rising and curving of one's back and hips as the climax builds, the tense contractions you can feel in your belly and thighs, and in your vagina, clitoris, and vulva... Spreading out across your body like tickling, buzzing tendrils of electricity. 

Your breath mimics the sensations, growing faster and shallower as the climax begins to build, and quite often there are moans and grunts and other sounds as your body prepares itself to let go.

After an orgasm there is often a period of intense sensitivity, both physically and emotionally. Your skin becomes more ticklish and sensitive to the touch, and your genitals feel throbby and pulsating, and can be incredibly hard to touch for a little while without sending almost electric shocks throughout your body. 

Some people claim emotional release so much so that they will laugh, or even cry after orgasming, which is purely just a release of endorphins and (especially if you are a post orgasm crier) there is nothing wrong with you, even if it can feel like there is. Just as we cry with overwhelming happiness or other positive experiences, crying is not necessarily a bad or negative thing. It's just a release.

Probably the best way to explore and test and see if you can and have reached that sexy orgasm peak is to masturbate. Using either just your hands, or finding a sex toy that will suit your needs and wants, it's time to learn about your body and the pleasures within. Do it alone and without any distractions. If there's a genre of porn or erotica that you like or are interested in, that can help get those orgasm juices flowing too.

Find those spots around your clit or vulva that feel nice and keep touching them and playing with them until they feel better than nice. Until they are begging to be touched and touched and touched because omg I can feel it building, and I can't stop moving my hands, and my body is starting to react, and I think I get what they've been talking about now and omg omg omgggg yes!!! 

Sometimes our own brains are our worst enemies when it comes to letting go and fully exploring our sex stuff, so just remember there is nothing wrong, dirty, shameful, or freaky about pleasure or how we experience it. You deserve it. You are worthy of it. And omg, you're gonna love it!

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    HOSTINGSUCKA

    More than a month ago

    Lets not also forget that men can have issues with orgasm. I have met more than a few that have the physical evidence of cumming - but have no "orgasm" experience.

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    Zamboon

    More than a month ago

    Another query - ladies often can have multiple orgasms ... so how long should one stop stimulating their pussies in order to carry on giving them a multiple orgasm or can some ladies ride it through ...

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    wickedcat

    More than a month ago

    My first wife was a bit of a control "freak" ... she loved sex and loved the fact that she could control when guys would cum ... but when it came to her own orgasm, it was a totally different story as she loses the "control" ... and was taken advantage of fairly early in her sex life. Roll forward a few years ... and about 8 months into our relationship, and after a few drinks, she finally let herself go, with astounding results and the feelings of pleasure and release that she had never thought possible. From that day on, her pleasure overtook her control issues ..... to the point that I sometimes couldn't keep up ..... lol

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    Fuckudeep129

    More than a month ago

    I've had a few orgasmic experience, and man it feels good even for us males, you feel the tremors, and sensitivity when you blow your load, but depends mostly on your partner

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    Ifuwannadome

    More than a month ago

    cause u squirt flat out lol

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    Zamboon

    More than a month ago

    Lovely article - go for it ladies enjoy it - too many feel shy or even ashamed to lose control especially in front of a partner .. so try and feel as comfortable asvyou can..
    From a mans perspective we love seeing and hearing and feeling you cum its soo exciting .. but there are too many of us who are insensitive and put pressure on you to do just that and we ask and then to please us or to stop us from asking you say yes ... and so ghe next time we do the same thing ...
    try to have the conversation and tell us what you like and what you dont like and if it doesnt get in the way of our egos then you will have a wonderful sex life ... I wish you all an orgasmic life ...
    One question though ... if a lady squirts has she had an orgasm ? I used to think so but now Im not so sure...
    Enjoy!

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      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      I can only speak for myself but I definitely have squirting orgasms that feel much different to a clitoral orgasm, and a different feel of release. Hope that helps Zamboon xxx

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      Friskybeach

      More than a month ago

      Nice comments, l guess the squirt is an individual thing, for some its with O, for others its a build up to the orgasm, can also what is happening clit, Gspot, oral. Toys..

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    Honeypot600

    More than a month ago

    Hallelujah to that release!!! And the post-orgasmic wetness that I get makes me do it again and again until I’m completely exhausted. Wouldn’t have made it through lockdowns without my talented fingers and toys

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