Let’s Bust Some Myths about Slutty Girls

Until men are given an equally derogatory title, I am another that is not fond of ‘slut’ as a descriptor, don’t want to reclaim it and would rather use a different word for a woman who embraces her sexuality.
Ummm….what word could we use….
Flap ….. too anatomical
Slip ….. too literal
Got it….we can call her ‘woman’.

Sexually confident women is a better term than slut for my money but hey, it is just a word, and as they say "sticks and stones......". My body, my choice. I am single and make sexual choices that suit me and my circumstances, but they are all based around a strong connection in the first place. Is that being a slut? Who cares is my answer...
I like Jen !

Hahaha the word slut simply comes from jelaousy i think. I mean lets be strait up here,Men love so called sluts. All Men want a slut in the bedroom and a lady in the streets. Full respect and admiration to any women that satisfys her needs and wants whateva way she chooses and cares nothing of the opinion of others to her for doing so. .

Totally agree. A friend once told me to watch out because a woman I liked, and seemed to like me, was a "slut". Meanwhile he was trying to get laid by any woman who he had a chance with. Why are men applauded for being a "stud" and women derided for being a "slut". They are doing the same thing, the only difference being their gender. There is nothing wrong with people enjoying each other sexually, just keep your hand's off somebody else's significant other unless it's all above board and agreed to. I used to help organise and participate in group parties. Singles and couples attended and everyone had a great time. I don't think slut should even exist as a word.

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  Blue262

  More than a month ago

  "Why are men applauded for being a "stud" and women derided for being a "slut". They are doing the same thing, the only difference being their gender."
  You answered your own question. Men and women are different. Women have all the children, but no woman can have 300 children, while there are a few princes out there who've done exactly that, by having hundreds of wives.
  "A lock that can be opened by any key is a terrible lock, a key that opens any lock is a valuable key." That's the logic you're arguing against. I'm not saying that's what I think, but that's the sort of thinking you have to answer.

Here's an old saying...sluts will sleep with anyone, bitches sleep with anyone but you!
May or may not be accurate, but it's old.

It takes away your credibility when you resort to cliches and tropes, particularly when they are sexist ones, when dealing with a serious topic.
But overall this is a good and insightful article.

Politics. Same game different name. Losers and winners.

Any combination of anything mentioned in this article, may or may not apply to sluts or non-sluts or anything in between

The social group regulates sexual activity, this is the unbreakable taboo. You break this taboo, you dissolve the social group. If that's not true, then everyone's opinions on this are weightless and worthless.
Where there's no rules, there's no fun to be had from breaking rules.
Kind of a childish and mixed up article, if one paragraph values "getting the pearl-clutchers right where they clutch hardest" while another asks "Who cares?"
Pick a lane.

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  DeliciousEva

  More than a month ago

  One can not care what other's think, while still enjoying watching them clutch their pearls.
  The two are not mutually exclusive by any means.
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  Blue262

  More than a month ago

  If we truly don't care what others think, as opposed to being in that adolescent phase of claiming not to care, we find ourselves quickly sent away from every social group that exists. The very few deeply broken people I've seen who don't care about the opinions of others were imprisoned and intractable prisoners at that.

Mmm, I agree whole heartedly. Great article.
For me, I know that Slut's just want to have FUN mmm LoL

Good article, i personally don't like the term slut,I think it's degrading some women are content with the term,

Great article. I have always said that we are in charge of our own body. If we wish to enjoy multiple partners ( after all the variety is great fun) then we should, be we female or male. I am disgusted by pub talk where males brag about their conquests at the same time deriding the wonderful women that made it possible. I agree that women should enjoy their bodies anyway they chose without being branded by shallow minded others who most likely don't have the courage to do the same, while secretly desiring to do so.

so what if a woman and her friend want to go out and have sex with 10 blokes, then go us, men dont say no, if we want to party then we will. and yes i have

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  Notsonewnow

  More than a month ago

  go girl, as long as you enjoy yourself & sounds like you do!
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  Ifuwannadome

  More than a month ago

  ohhh love mainland footy trips to the casino frid and sat nights. wild as, night days lol, my friend and i loved it

The annoying part on AMM is the balance between all the opinions.... I like sex and I know want it often, but with guys I'm into...
- if I turn a guy down I get called names for saying no and being too picky
- if I like a guy and invite him back too soon I'm clingy and must be falling in love
- if I make plans with too many guys in a month I'm dirty trash and a slut for fucking around
And on top of all of that the fun guys want me to take back the word slut and enjoy being called it even though I have 20+ years of coding it as a bad word in my head. I personally don't see myself getting the word slut on my list of words to call myself, but I am having so much fun in the company of the guys who use slut as a compliment.
Thank goodness for the fun guys (and the block button for the others)

Nice article, strong people are themselves regardless of stereotypes. It is up to the rest of us to empower those who don’t have the strength within to be themselves.

Excellent article!

I agree with this article and its my pet hate when you hear guys calling women sluts. It annoys me when the same guys are patting themselves on the back bragging to each other about I shagged this one and that one but instead of their mates calling tbem out on it they are praising and patting each other on the back. So for the guys out there bagging women and then screwing anyone with a heart beat remember people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones

Great article Eva.

Slut, I don't use the term, there is absolutely nothing wrong with women having a healthy sex life with as many partners as they want. It's their choice and there are is a lot of mental repression around which is used as a form of control.

I'm slutty and l know it.. love it, some men can't handle it, like the article says.. other women don't like it as it's how we are conditioned to think..
Nothing wrong with being a sexy,classy slutt.

Great article Eva! It's such a double standard that slutty guys are patted on the back and applauded by their mates but slutty women are seen as dirty and cheap. All hail the slut I say! How wonderful for a woman to own her sexuality, her desire, her body and to indulge her needs.

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  Account Closed

  More than a month ago

  And so say all of us!! Boo sucks to social conditioning, double standards, patriarchy & misogyny .....
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  Blue262

  More than a month ago

  A slutty guy isn't patted on the back, he's seen as a selfish, empty and there are plenty of songs and stories about how that sort of man ages very badly.
  Maybe boys in school think the guy who gets a lot of girls is winning on some scoreboard, but nobody with a brain thinks that in their twenties. Watching that guy get STDs and deal with not being great at relationships teaches everyone around him.
  He IS dirty and cheap.
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  Account Closed

  More than a month ago

  Agreed but it’s not just men judging women that own their bodies, it’s other women as well believe me I’ve experienced it first hand. It’s always been ‘ double ‘ standards and that’s unlikely to change. I don’t think all men pay other benefits that sleep around in the back but it’s certainly more accepted between them.
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  KinkyGirl101

  More than a month ago

  @MandyMaree81 agreed it's certainly not just men judging.
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  KinkyGirl101

  More than a month ago

  @blue262 what alter universe are you living in? Of course slutty men are patted on the back. They literally brag about it. And you've just reinforced the whole argument of this argument by saying the guys will get STDs - that's one of the myths.

Jen sounds like my type of woman!

My sentiments exactly ... the planet could use more trees.... Great read!

Great article. I've been lucky enough to find many "sluts" (ugly sounding word, prefer the sound of libertine) in this world who I have enjoyed time with and they, according to them, me. From what I've seen some of the biggest "sluts" are very powerful, highly educated ladies. I suspect there is a connection between ladies who live their lives as they want and ladies who are sluts. I'm also a firm believer that some true sluts are monogamous through conscious choice related to the love of one man because of the benefits in their lives though he is also normally works hard at it if you get what I mean.

Well spoken Eva good job
Think a story article explaining those known as fridgit , teasers
Might help understand themselves better with this kind of behaviour
Just a thought

Agree totally. We still live in a patriarchal society that puts women down when they are seen as equals to men. A woman should be allowed to wear what she wants, when she wants and behave how she wants without put downs, lurid comments, or judgement.

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  IVAONE60

  More than a month ago

  I totally agree women have been put down for too long by what society says they should be.

Brilliant read

WOW,what a fabulous & well written piece by Ms E.Sless.. Its about reclaiming the lost power one has over their own body,their libido and why not-when you know what you need,desire and want then go out to find it...You go girlfriends >this one shouts, then begins to dance the jig to Anthem "girls-rule the world" by Beyonce. Such an empowering moment.Build em up , not tear them down..Now thats progressive and a fab move forwards..

Thanks for the article ... I find that women call other women sluts more readily than men - and for any reason - the way they dress, loose morals and especially if they find out that they have been with their bf..
Ive known a number of lovely women who enjoy sex and like to refer to themselves as sluts and they like being called dirty names including sluts during sex play - long may they live !

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  Account Closed

  More than a month ago

  Agreed, I think the women that do that are basically insecure themselves. I’ve never been judged by a women who’s doing more then me in any aspect of her life that’s for sure. It’s amuses me no end that some women think they have the right to judge this, probably a boring shag themselves :)

Thanks Eva.
(I'm a man who loves liberated people!).
'Sluts' are fabulous and it's high time more men recognised the outlandish idea that a man good with women is somehow to be admired?!
Go you good bad girls!
William

Great article, nothing wrong with confidence is there. Some of these so called sluts are the nicest people, they just like what they like that’s it.
95 % of female/ males sluts you wouldn’t pick at all.
Enjoy

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  Mindfood2

  More than a month ago

  Well said,
  Thank you Eva..great article