Unlock Your G-Spot

Woman with curly red hair smiling and holding up two fingers

What is the G-spot?

Before we begin, here's a fun fact for you! Did you know the G-spot was almost called the Whipple Tickle after Doctor Beverly Whipple, one of the doctors responsible for discovering and identifying it?  In the end, however, it was (surprise surprise) named after the other doctor, the male one, Doctor Ernst Gräfenberg - inventor of the IUD and instrumental in other women's sexual healthcare so we can't be too angry at him, just at the system... But personally I reckon Whipple Tickle would have been a way better word... Anyway I digress...

So again, what is the G-spot? 

This incredibly enigmatic yet elusive erogenous zone is the pleasure spot you were never taught about in school. But then let's face it, were ANY female pleasure spots taught to us in school?

Usually nestled around 2-3 inches up inside the front wall of the vagina, the G-spot has a slightly rough or bumpy texture which can change as it becomes more aroused. This is because it is made of the same sort of erectile tissue that's in the penis and, as it is manipulated, it swells and fills with blood, making it even more sensitive and pleasurable to the touch. 

It is super important to remember, though, that just like every person and every body, not everyone experiences the same things in the same way, so it might take a little longer or a slightly different technique to get the same result as other people say they get, and some people may not ever find or experience it in that way, and that's okay too. 

Experiment and Exploration

When it comes to discovering and enjoying the G-spot, whether solo or with a partner, communication, concentration, and experimentation are crucial. It doesn’t matter if you're just using your fingers or specifically designed G-spot toys, it's important to take it slow and really focus on the different sensations and feelings inside your vagina. 

Flying Solo

Sometimes, when trying to discover something new, some people like to do it on their own. To get a real sense of their body, what it is feeling, where it feels the best, and then, once they feel like they're on the right path, it's time to invite another person in to join - to show them the spots that are best, to bring them into the exploration, and to ramp it up a bit. Of course, I say "sometimes" because sometimes experimenting alone can be a little boring, and learning and exploring with a partner is a whole different experience. 

Pleasure Together

In all sex, with all partners, regardless of how many times you've played with them before, or done the thing before, open communication and feedback is essential. Checking in and making sure there is always enthusiasm and consent is vital, as is letting your partners know they are doing a good job, making you feel good, and getting the best sensations out of your body.

Angles and Pressure and Time

When it comes to stimulating the G-spot effectively the most important thing you'll need is patience. Patience to first find the spot, and then patience to work out how best to manipulate it. It helps if you are already a bit aroused and horny, and it can actually help if you've recently orgasmed, as the area will be supple and ready and already starting to swell and become sensitive. 

Play around with your fingertips or curved G-spot toy and push firmly on the area. It can sometimes feel a little like you're pushing on your bladder (and that sensation can be useful when learning how to squirt) but if you can, try to move past that feeling or at least try and recognise it as a sensation build up, but not for urination... try and feel it in your vagina and pelvis instead. 

For the most part, the pressure needs to be quite hard and firm against the spot, but as you get more used to it, and learn exactly where it is in your own body, it will begin to feel less clunky and forceful, and begin to feel full and perfect.

While most people prefer pressure to vibration on that area, everyone is different so it's a great idea to play around with different toys and their various settings to find the best possible one for you.

Talk! Talk! Talk!

When learning new things with a partner remember to be open and honest in your communication. It's okay to say something isn't working and to try something else, and giving clear, but fun instructions is all part of the enjoyment of discovery. 

Creating a comfortable and inviting atmosphere can also elevate or enhance your experience. Be in a space you love and feel the sexiest in. 

Soft lighting, beautiful textures, some mood-setting music, and maybe even a glass of wine to get you relaxed and ready for new things. All of these things can contribute to an ambiance that enhances the overall exploration, and gets the best out of your experience. 
Ultimately, the journey of sexual exploration is unique for each person. Even in a shared experience. Embrace curiosity, foster open-mindedness, and be willing and excited to connect with yourself and your own desires. The G-spot is just one piece of the puzzle, but it's a damn good piece, and one that will create an incredible picture when you get it right.
Remember the journey is just as important as the destination. So don't get too caught up in the end result, and just have fun figuring it all out.

Have you found your G-spot? Tell us about it in the comments!


Have your say! Login to comment.
  • MildBruceBanner


    More than a month ago

    Men have been embarrassed that they couldn’t find the woman’s, good advice!

  • SarahJane81


    More than a month ago

    Hey, great article very informative!

  • triXXXi66


    More than a month ago

    All the talk about ‘filling you up’ and ‘in all the way’ uggh.. the most sensitive spots are the first few inches inside a woman!

  • Newday2play


    More than a month ago

    G...whizz 😊✌

Copyright © 2024 Eva Sless It is illegal to use any or all of this article without the expressed, written permission from Adult Match Maker and the author. If you wish to use it you must publish the article in its entirety and include the original author, plus links, so that it is clear where the content originated. Failure to do so will result in legal action being taken.
The content posted on this blog is intended for informational purposes only and the opinions or views within each article are not intended to replace professional advice. If you require professional relationship or sexual health advice you should consult with an appropriately trained and qualified specialist.