Men Wearing Women’s Underwear

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Q: I have a very masculine partner and we’ve been together just over a year, and he’s great, but I’m almost 100% sure he is wearing my underwear. I’ve found stretched and laddered stockings, and several pair of knickers are missing. I’m curious to know why he’s doing it, and what it means, but am worried he’ll tell me he’s trans. How do I ask him about this?!

The first thing you need to know is that Men Wearing Women’s Underwear (MWWU) is quite a common kink - in fact, some online lingerie stores include separate size charts for men - and it’s also fairly common for this kink to be hidden. Often these fetishists are concerned their play may be defined as cross-dressing, or seen as ‘gay’. Although technically a form of cross-dressing, most of the men identifying with this fetish do not see themselves as cross-dressers, as they have no inclination to be outwardly identified as anything other than male. They do not wear make-up or heels, or clothes codified ‘female’; it’s just a turn on from wearing women’s underwear. Don’t stress that your man will want to start transitioning any time soon.

Some MWWU will deny it being a fetish or kink at all, and simply choose female underwear for the range of fabrics, styles, and colours that men’s underwear does not offer. They discuss in detail the extra genital support women’s knickers give them, how much more comfortable they are wearing a bra, and why stockings are amazing for jogging. And the vast majority also acknowledge the ‘massive boner’ they get when they become conscious of their under garments - so, y’know… when they’re getting sexy feels it’s a fetish. You have nothing to worry about in terms of this kink emasculating your partner. 

Part of the allure of kink and fetish is the element of the taboo - the excitement of doing something ‘wrong’, or the risk of being caught. For MWWU, this is a major part of the thrill - the secrecy is a big part of the kink. It makes sense that your partner is trying things on when you’re not around - this is adding to the thrill - but if your things are being lost or damaged, then a) the secret isn’t being kept very well and b) you’ve earned yourself some pretty new stuff. 

Awkward conversations are a given in any longer term relationship, and if you’ve not had any yet, lucky you, and here’s your chance! You don’t need to ‘ask’ him about it - you just need to call him on it, in as loving and understanding a way as possible. Maybe share thoughts and information via browsing lingerie online? There are plenty of online retailers specialising in male lingerie, and this gives you the opportunity to be curious - ask him what he likes and why. Show him what you like. Share. Discuss. Support. Then let him know your boundaries for any rummaging or wearing of your items, and if your knickers are totally off-limits, encourage him to invest in his own stuff. 

Considering someone is going through your drawers without permission, this conversation is unavoidable. When including a kinky component to a relationship, it needs to be consensual, and based on boundaries negotiated by both parties. There needs to be trust. This is a huge opportunity to evolve your relationship - the intimacy shared with a partner in kink is an incredible bond, and something truly special. Just be authentic with each other, and see where it takes you.

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  • neotheonly

    neotheonly

    More than a month ago

    I thinks it’s hot

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    Bighorse10

    More than a month ago

    We both love wearing erotic undies,seems rather unfair that only females get the choice of satin,lace and beautiful underwear.Cotton On is our new favourite outlet with the high cut brasilianos...........gives us both an erotic vpl to arouse us all day.

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      mack866

      More than a month ago

      Do blame you guy i wear sexy underwear every day it feels very erotic i haven't wear man underwear for years now

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    FunNFriendship2

    More than a month ago

    I love the feel of silk g’s they are soooo sexy

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    slipinout

    More than a month ago

    Nothing wrong with a G riding up ya butt,feels hot..

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  • DeeJayBee

    DeeJayBee

    More than a month ago

    I have 2 FWB that love to wear lingerie, both bi too. Have had a few other lovers that like to wear lingerie too. 1 bi and 1 in denial of being bi. The all love to be pegged. I am thinking it is a common thing. I indulge them and compliment them. It becomes part of play. Just accept and don't be judgmental. I prefer an open and honest sexual relationship. As kinks go this one is pretty tame.

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      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      I love your attitude towards it, after all we all have things we like

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    KinkyGirl101

    More than a month ago

    To those people going ugh what a turn off, how would you feel if someone said that about your kinks? Absolutely nothing wrong with this. I've seen a friend's marriage break up over it because she just didn't get it. Cue the violins for the regret she now feels for not embracing her partner's kink. And another friend who has slept with almost every hot woman we ever spoke to at Hellfire. I don't know what his trick was but it obviously worked. Embrace your kinks. And if a little bit of lace, a stockinged leg or a corset makes you feel good, more power to you.

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    FatFiestyFun

    More than a month ago

    Instant turn off

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    aussietrucker55

    More than a month ago

    if hes wearing ya under wear he could also be bi lol

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      KinkyGirl101

      More than a month ago

      That's a big leap - what you wear can determine your sexual orientation. Hmm I don't think so.

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      FoxDens.Mr.Fox

      More than a month ago

      @aussietrucker55...you obviously (and now publicly) have just shown you didn't understand what you've just read!

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      mack866

      More than a month ago

      And if he is bi is that a bad thing im bi and I've got the best of both worlds and I get to wear sexy underwear

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    Meg1987

    More than a month ago

    Complete turn off.

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    konan88

    More than a month ago

    I love it. One GF made suggestions what I should try on next. We surfed the online stores together. I believe she just wasnt stressed by me enjoying myself and she wanted to help. It was quid pro quo, she had her kink and constantly asked me to help her. Great attitude.

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    Sassysissy242

    More than a month ago

    I love to wear all the girls clothes,it feels amazing and so sexy,i wear them and sip a wine and enjoy my feminine sides.Its so relaxing and great experience,even i met few cpls who i played with ,few girls and only few nice boys.i feel it has increased my range of sensual life.So good.
    Wink me if any one keen to explore with me.
    Sania

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    phoenix1323

    More than a month ago

    It wouldn’t bother me at all. I’ve had playmates who liked the feel of silky underwear, and who can blame them?

    I’ve also played with cross dressers, and I enjoyed when they dressed for me, because it made THEM feel good, and also more comfortable with me.

    Being a cross dresser to any degree doesn’t make your guy trans. Some guys just like the feel of the clothing, or the way it makes them feel. Enjoy it with them. It’s just scraps of material that end up on the bedroom floor at the end of the day. Have fun with it :)

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    Ifuwannadome

    More than a month ago

    touch my lingerie....id show you the door

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    Mandy2018

    More than a month ago

    Ummmmm no, wouldn’t turn me on at all.

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    friskypuz

    More than a month ago

    Had a lover who had a pair of my sexy nickers, he would wear them and send me a photo when he couldn't have me,... Wonder if he still has them??

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      phoenix1323

      More than a month ago

      lol I have an ex who unbeknownst to me kept my bra from when I was 16.. he told me about it nearly 30 years later, and still has it lol

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    Mindgames2

    More than a month ago

    Loved my Lingerie
    I wont want to share my own lingerie to any guys coz of covid..lol
    He need to buy his own he can show me if it suits him..lol

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    aimstoplease247

    More than a month ago

    Lingerie is hot!!

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      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      Is it now ?

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      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      Most definitely, I'm surprised you haven't noticed considering how alluring you make it look.

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      Mindgames2

      More than a month ago

      Naughty but nice..Lingerie is ..Hotxxx

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    triXXXi66

    More than a month ago

    Makes you wonder when your man looks better than you in your lingerie! Lol

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      Wouldbanng

      More than a month ago

      Diggers in Brettencourt during ww1 always snatched them from liberated Francaise girls and more the silk because stopped the lice invading one's groin

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      triXXXi66

      More than a month ago

      Hahah... oh any excuse! Lol

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      Wouldbanng

      More than a month ago

      Hey those guys were a breed apart from us baby boomed types??

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    badthoughts63

    More than a month ago

    I once dated a girl who loved me wearing lingerie. I must admit I was turned on too!

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