How to Date a Trans Woman

This is an interest piece,probably the best article I've read online in some time.Its written to inform in a candid way that modern journalism lacks,due to the politicised slant they often sell out for,that and capitalism.Being a trans advocate or championing any ideal is a mature minded pursuit,may as well stand for something as opposed to being a total sell-out like our current government that stand for nothing good or positive.Under them Australia never benefits,but their pocket books do.which is worse a minority that exists you've never met,that has no proof of malice and that only seek to live like everyone else vs an elite few,who live off the taxes,above the law,commit heinous Acts of criminality,corruption,sex crimes and escape justice at every turn,even changing our once proud democracy..that's a rhetorical question.but your choice matters in life if you believe you'll be judged inevitably in your final demise.

I really cringe when cis folks write about a transwoman of experience but this article isn’t written by Eva it’s her asking questions from transwoman and then her final thoughts, so i like this article.

Part of the blame of transwoman dating men in secret is to do with us by allowing this happen.
But in past 15 years men’s attitudes towards transwomen in Australia have shifted a tiny bit.
And partially because we have all said enough is enough, either take me as I am or you have nothing. And that’s because a lot of us have taught and educated eachother and our young ones to only be involved with guys who are proud to be with you and not be ashamed of you.

There are so many men now who don’t care and aren’t ashamed they love us and are proud of us.

Men on AMM is a whole different story, yes they want to be private and guess what so do I, that’s why I’m on here lol..

My gender is not a dirty secret.

Great article!
I’ve dated trans girls in the past and, luckily, I was mature enough to have abided by these points.
Fighting for trans rights is an interesting point and very valid if you intend on genuinely dating trans women. Noted!

Great article! Trans women are the best!

thank you Eva ox

Interesting, but one thing that sticks out is a comment that was made, it said that trans women are women they think of themselves as women which is great, but get up set that they arent introduced as a trans woman,. If you think your a woman than why get pissed cos the guy introduced you as a woman instead of trans woman. To that's a little hypocritical. You can't have it both ways

Great article!
As usual, well written and informative.

Oh and God ibhate it when people tell me I'm brave. Brave for doing what? I discovered the parental lie about my body 14 years ago. When "Transgender" wasn't even a social term outside a few males watching porn secretly.

What's brave, is a transwoman who tolerates people telling her she's brave.

You'd be stunned how many AMM male and female members call me a Tranny, or Chick with a Dick, or a bloke, or a man in a dress.

I even have, unfortunately, a brief description of why I'm not trans in my profile.

I'm not Trans. Transwoman don't have periods. Telling me I am is abuse. The same abuse that I endured as a Child, which ironically as many on AMM are parents would hate their child to experience.

Thankfully there are some men who are nice.

Unfortunately, I'm Lesbian, so finding women is as Impossibly difficult for me as it is for a male finding a woman.

And women thave told me they are intimidated by me because I'm attractive, intelligent, talented, confident, and carry myself well.

Isn't that why every woman wants?

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  DeliciousEva

  More than a month ago

  Just wanna pop in and say I went to your profile and its excellent. Sucks people don't read them often enough.
  Good luck in your search! xx
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  LegsLicious

  More than a month ago

  Thanks :)
  
  I also get told my profile scares girls away :/

Great article, and hugely informative. As a pansexual guy I’m ashamed to admit that I’ve fallen into one or two of these mistakes in the past. I have great respect and admiration for the bravery and honesty of all trans people, so I pledge to do better in the future

I love Trans women and I find it hard to find them I wish I could find trans for fwb.

Transwoo
Hi I am post op Trans and honestly I am proud of making my change. After reading this article it has opened my eyes to the pain we girls feel with the (opposite) sex ha ha!
I have kept my transition a closely guarded secret after being abused for just having my ears pierced,
go figure!.
I am honestly in love with my new life,
Unfortunately I had spent faaaaar to my time in my old shoes!
I really enjoyed reading your article it just made me feel so much better knowing that other people are feeling the same way and have the same expectations

thank you so much for sharing some of our concerns, I truly hope guys will read it and take notice. I know I told a few guys that the message wasn't sinking into about the up coming article and they have read it and went ...oh shit ... " i need to rethink my approach" once again thank you for putting our experiences out there

Loved loved this article and presenting the viewpoint of trans people in such a candid way. I think the way one treats a trans person speaks a lot about a person's maturity.
Having a coffee or drink or going to an event with a trans person should be no different from doing the same with a cis person.
Men, you will get looks from people, that's the sad state of the society we dwell in. But are you "man" enough to grant your partner the respect and dignity she deserves.

Great read, Eva. Thank you for including *trans folk as one of your article topics. If you intend on doing one on trans men in any regard, you're more than welcome to contact me for any information or help. Keep up the good work AMM authors!

Thankyou,thankyou, for once I didnt have to say much here, relief at last.great author.!!

All good advice. It's pretty obvious to me day in and day out that no guy reads this!

Lovely written article makes you understand more about who we are and can be in a honest world .. I’m so lucky to have a partner who encourages me and my love to express my love to be feminine...

Beautifully written. Just imagine one day not needing to have to write such an article. We are who we are.

Great article :)

a nice blunt informative piece. as trans women we all have differing experiences and expectations. However they may vary they revolve around all those topics. it is very simple in reality, my gender is not my sexuality these are 2 very distinctly different topics.

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  neotheonly

  More than a month ago

  That’s a very interesting point
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  Account Closed

  More than a month ago

  when i lived life as a man i was straight sexually, as a woman i am still straight sexually, hormones assisted to correct my gender not change my sexuality

Great article....we all just want to be treated with respect! I can relate to some of these issues...I’m a big girl & find lots of men want to fuck me but rarely would any of them be seen in public with me! Good luck girls...it ain’t easy out there!

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  Account Closed

  More than a month ago

  I'm bbw and I was having the same thoughts reading their comments about guys not dating in public.
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  MsShazza94

  More than a month ago

  Yes BBW lovers often keep the bigger girl at home for sex but don't take her out. I avoid guys who talk about being chubby chasers or BBW lovers.
  
  Love me not my fat bits
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  LegsLicious

  More than a month ago

  Gish I'm a size 10 and all I get are guys hitting on me in public, on a bus, at a bust stop, on a train, ferry, night club, restaurant.
  
  Femme Invisibility is Real. Wish girls would hit on me.
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  Account Closed

  More than a month ago

  I would not sleep with anyone that refers to me as a ‘ BBW ‘ period. You aren’t about to meet men that want to date you on here, you are on the wrong site if you think that’s what you’ll find. I’ve been married and another long term relationship. I meet men easily, I’ve always carried weight. Not every man I meet I would date, you have to be selective. If you are desperate, they’ll sense that a mile away. Respect yourself enough to wait for someone worthy of your time and energy :) sex is sex, dating someone that moves you on all le ems is another ball game entirely.
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  BBWmature

  More than a month ago

  Have never thought I’d meet Mr Right on here, I’m just here for fun! It was a general statement sympathetic to the article & transgenders being judged!

Congratulations Eva on a fantastic feature on ‘trans respect’. If your contributors Penny and Alice are who I think they might be I know both of them to be very wonderful women. Before lockdown I would see Penny and our other trans friends at social gatherings. I cant thank them or you enough for this very important expose. Best wishes
Fran ‘latelygirl’

That is a very good article. I find I am attracted to trans women as they are usually close to what my mind feels is beautiful in a woman. As a couple we would adore to have a mff relationship with a trans woman as much as a cis woman. Our stumbling block is that with either we need privacy as being a family couple society isn’t ready to accept couples dating others just yet. I can see this being construed that we are hiding because of being trans. If I was a single guy I would have no issue with dating a trans woman just the same as a cis woman and would love walking down the street with my arm wrapped around the hottest girl in town :)

Very good article, respect a person for whom they are, not any preconceived ideas or believes you may have, be they a hangover from the past. A woman is a woman so treat her as such, if you can't walk her into a restaurant, a movie or a party with your friends or family then it's you that has the problem, not her, if she's good enough to want, be proud enough to show her off..

Wow