So you want to be an exhibitionist!

So you want to be an exhibitionist! But what is exhibitionism, and what isn’t it? In basic terms an exhibitionist is a person who receives arousal and sexual excitement from being watched, viewed, seen, and enjoyed by other people. Whether it's feeling aroused by a wolf whistle or approving glances as you walk down a street, or more overt performances like stripping or being watched at a swingers party, the main aspects are that of mutual enjoyment by both the viewer and the viewed. 

This is very different to conditions like 'exhibitionistic disorder" - a condition that sees people aroused by non-consensual showing of one’s genitals, like flashing, to unsuspecting members of the public, which can actually be viewed as indecent exposure at best and sexual assault at worst. The big difference being consent of all people involved.

Start Slowly

Public nudity can be a bit extreme for people first starting to explore their exhibitionist side so it's a good idea to start things off slowly and in a place you feel confident and safe, like your own home! Think about the various websites that allow for webcam shows, and see if that could be something you'd enjoy. You can be totally anonymous and have your face hidden from view, while still getting excited by exposing yourself to people who want to see what you've got.

Wearing sexy, slinky clothing, and getting off on the admiring views as you cross your legs to reveal the lacy top of a stocking, or a sheer top that shows your bra or accentuates your nipples, is another way you can get a bit of a public fix without necessarily offending people. If you have a partner, start doing little slinky moves as you undress for them, making sure you have their full attention as you slowly reveal yourself. Masturbating for them is another sexy way to perform and be admired within the safe space of your own home, as is fun little things like flashing them while they're watching TV, or working in the garden or talking to their boss on the phone (just make sure it's not a zoom call and there's no video streaming your stuff to the entire office).

Build Up Your Confidence 

Once you're feeling a little more confident and comfortable, it's time to up your game and start thinking about how to take it a little further. A really good place to start is a topless or nudist beach. These are places that, while not necessarily sexual, are definitely body positive and as long as you're not overtly sexualising yourself and your body, you can absolutely enjoy both the freedom of being naked and getting used to being naked in a public setting. And it's a really great excuse to go skinny dipping too! 

The more confident you get the more you will probably start exploring more aspects of camming and online video chats, finding ways to create sexy and fun content, and even maybe start showing your face to a select few, and soon, if you're comfortable enough, it could be time to step out into the world.

Swing into a Sex Party

Something not everyone is aware of when it comes to swinger and sex parties is there is something out there to cater for every person's kinks and proclivities, and even if you don't necessarily want to have actual sex with people, a party or gathering like that can be an excellent way for you to strut your gorgeous naked self around a group of admirers. Many kink-specific parties are actually not sex based at all, and you will often find like minded people who can easily become a community and new friends to share your new excitements with.

Step Outside

So you've been to a nudist beach and even fucked at a sex party, but you're thinking you want to take the public exhibitionism to a whole new level? Well let's have a little chat about public sex and dogging! While yes, it's pretty illegal, and no we do not want to encourage you to break the law, as you can see from our dogging article and pieces on car sex and public sex, doing it out in nature where you just may get caught is a pretty popular and exciting adventure. You can even get some tips and tricks from our sex positions for car sex and sex in cramped spaces articles. Just please, as always, don't spring your kink on unsuspecting strangers as it's not fair and not cool and totally not an unreasonable request to respect other's boundaries. 

Every Body Is Sexy

Something we feel is very important to remind you all of is this: Every body is sexy. You are sexy. Yes, you, reading this and wondering if you're not good enough or worthy of enjoying people enjoying you. Shush. Yes you are. It doesn't matter if you have a tummy, or stretch marks, if you're old or disabled, or fat or thin. There will always be people who want to see your body and watch you be in it. Sometimes it might take a while to find your perfect audience, but trust me, they're out there, and they think you're utterly magical. 

Remember consent is everything!

Now go on, get your kit off, and start showing us your goods!

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  GangbanGirl791

  More than a month ago

  I love men looking at me in the nude

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  69fun1969

  More than a month ago

  As a exhibitionist myself and my partner is also we both wish we had of seen this article years ago it was still a great read and I hope it helps some people enjoy themselves

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  nudistsex

  More than a month ago

  Was at a nudist beach a couple of weeks ago on a towel naked laying on my back when I was approached by a older man who started chatting with me. I had my foreskin pulled back and while he was talking he was looking at my cock and watching while my cock slowly got hard till it was upright and hard. So turned on having him watch me naked with my hard cock and my legs spread, while he was still dressed

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  InsideVoice

  More than a month ago

  The nude beach is a joy I didn't fully appreciate until I visited. It's not even particularly sexual however the sense of freedom nudists describe is absolutely real. Very different from parties etc.
  
  Oh, please do the nudists a favor and save sexy times for later, or if you can't resist keep it super discreet. They fought long battles for every nude beach and local councils are under constant pressure to revoke legal nude beach status.

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  flamincrazy

  More than a month ago

  It's good to be relaxed with your body and show it off,have been to nudist resorts, swinger's partys and dogging

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