Putting on the Porn Star Moves

If you're anything like me and consume a lot of sex media, whether educational or otherwise, you'll probably have come across the phrase somewhere along the way that "Porn Sex Is Not Real Sex". And let me tell you, as someone who has written, directed, and consulted on multiple adult film sets, this attitude utterly shits me.

I mean, I get it. I know what they're trying to say for the most part; porn standards, moves, looks, and performances can be an incredibly unrealistic goal for most people, but it's also underlined with some pretty gross attitudes surrounding sex work, and completely disregards the fact that porn sex can be bloody hard work, and have incredibly high professional standards. 

A far more accurate way to think of porn sex is as "performative" rather than "not real", because it is, in fact, very real sex, with very real bodies, and very real humans.

Think of the way that professional wrestlers perform and choreograph their fights and moves... They might be "putting on a show", but the activity itself is very real, very physical, and can absolutely hurt when they throw you across the room.

So while it can be a little unrealistic for the average fuckers to achieve that visual high quality sheen, there are definitely some things you can do to put you in that "porn star" head space, and put on a bit of a show for you and your lover.

Enhanced Reactions

Porn stars are loud. They throw their heads back. They scream and moan. They buck and move... And everything is done in a sort of overt, stage-managed way... For you and me and the other laypeople out there, just adding a little extra volume or wiggle to our regular moves and sounds can create a whole new dimension to the experience.  Hearing your lover moan is an incredible turn on for almost everyone, and having them react quickly and strongly to even the lightest of touches adds an air of sexual steaminess. Change up the noises too. Change a moan into a "yes" or a "mmm right there... harder... slower... softer... faster...." 

Touch their hands while their hands are touching you. Writhe snake-like and sensually under their fingertips. Moan. Sigh. Say their name...

Body Porn

Arched backs. Elongated legs. Butt up high, round and spankable. Apart from your brain, your body is the most sensual part of you and just moving it in slightly more exaggerated or deliberate ways than usual can totally turn you into a sex goddess of the screen. Slowly moving up the bed makes your torso sensually long and inviting to touch... leaving on high heels creates deliciously long, smooth leg lines... your own hands in your hair (Harry met Sally style) gives off a sultry air of sexual abandon. Touch your stomach with your fingertips... trail them down towards your pussy.  Make his eyes follow those fingertips... show him where you want him to touch you. Your body is a blank canvas... Show him how to turn it into art.

Eye Contact

Not everyone loves or feels comfortable with prolonged eye contact, even the most loving and connected of couples and lovers. But it doesn't have to be weird and awkward all the time, and the more you do it, the better you get at it.

In backward positions like doggy style, try slowly turning your head to face him and smile or moan as he pushes into you. Bite your lip... close your eyes briefly to show you can feel him pushing deep. So deep.

For the guys, grabbing a gentle fist of her hair, or turning her face towards you with a finger under her chin just to catch her eye and tell her she's the hottest woman you've ever known can be an absolute turn on.

Eye contact while giving head is also a massive turn on for a lot of men. On your knees, mouth full of cock, eyes wide and a little watery as you take it all in... let some of your spit trickle out your mouth, act like it's the most delicious, mouth-watering food you've ever eaten... let your fingertips and fist slide up and down using the sexy dribble as lube... It's one of the ultimate porn money shots and he won't be able to take his eyes off you.

Gripping Tight and Spanky Fun

Big hands, strong, grabby, firm, determined... You don't have to be into BDSM or any kind of pain to appreciate and enjoy firm hands gripping tightly, or a gentle spank on the soft buttocks to add a little more sensation to the moment. In the height of pleasure our pain receptors kind of meld into pleasure ones and what might be uncomfortable or painful in any other context becomes titillating and teasing when we are horny and aroused. It really doesn't have to be anything hugely different to what you normally enjoy either, just an enhanced version... and you never know... you may find yourself experimenting more and more!

Shoot It!

The ultimate way to act and be like a porn star is to actually make your own porn! Whether just photos or video, it can be utterly mind blowing to see sexy, gorgeous photos of yourself doing some pretty nasty things. Selfie sticks and video tripods are your best friend, as is lighting and finding your absolute best angles. Practice and play and have fun doing it because when you're having fun you're far more relaxed and able to see the best potential your sexiness has.

The biggest advice I can give you in this instant, however, is to remember that porn stars, and those who shoot them, are professionals who know exactly how and where to sit or lie, how to light it and design the set, and most importantly, how to pose to show off the best of what you have. 

And not only that, it's also important to remember there are literally thousands of pictures and images that never ever make the light of day and all you see is the finished product. So be aware you may take some images that really don't do you any flattering favours... And that's when you really learn to appreciate the delete button.

Watch and Copy

Watch porn. Go to sexy photo sites. Follow porn stars, sex workers and only fans girls on social media and their personal websites. These people are professionals and know what they're doing and will offer up so much inspiration for you and your lover. I think it is super important to find a porn star who has the same body type or shape as you (and trust me, they're out there). Everyone has a preference and I can guarantee you, even if you think you're not, you're absolutely somebody's fantasy and there will be multiple examples for you to emulate for your own personal porn performance at home.

Remember to always get consent when playing, filming, or photographing, and never, EVER share or post explicit content of anyone that isn't you without their absolute explicit consent.

What are your favourite porn star tricks?