5 Mistakes Women Make in Bed

Adult Match Maker on 28 June 2015    12 comments
Woman in bed with her partner looking dejected

Last month we wrote about the 5 mistakes guys make in bed. Amongst the suggestions, plenty of you asked about the mistakes women make, too. 

So here’s what you’ve all been waiting for - the five things the ladies should brush up on to turn good sex into mind-blowing sex. 

1. Confidence

A woman with no confidence can be particularly frustrating for a guy who just wants to ravish your body and see your reaction. 

So when a woman insists on turning the lights off, you can imagine how torn he is. On one hand, he wants you to feel comfortable, on the other, keeping the lights on and seeing your hot naked body is incredibly arousing and takes the experience to a whole new level. 

It’s not the cellulite, stretch marks or jiggly bits he’s looking at ladies (well, some of the jiggly bits), it’s the look in your eye, the bounce of your tits and the glistening of your vagina as you get wet. Hot, right? 

Wear nothing but your confidence to the bedroom and your man will thank you for it. 

2. Share the work

Even though a guy is happy to initiate sex, don’t let him be the only one to get things started. 

Letting your man know you want him so badly you can’t keep your hands off him is a turn on in itself, and switching up the norm is a great way to keep your sex life from becoming predictable. 

Also give him a break from setting the pace and changing positions by taking control every now and then so he can simply enjoy the ride.

3. No faking it

Ever. Seriously. 

A guy won’t thank you for faking an orgasm, and you won’t thank yourself several weeks later when you’re still not achieving the real thing because he doesn’t know how to get you there. 

Take the time to help him help you, and he can have the satisfaction of knowing it’s real. 

While we’re on the topic, you can stop with the porn-star screaming as well. It’s all well and good when you’re really in the throes, but if you’re moaning like you’re mid-orgasm when you’re still halfed dressed, he knows it’s not real.

4. Never bring up your Ex

We doubt you’d start talking about your ex’s favourite hobbies, but it’s not uncommon for a girl to talk about how her ex used to do X to her, or how she hated it when he did Y. 

Your man does not want to know about someone who has been there before him.

Skip his name, pretend he doesn’t exist, and give that same great feedback to your current partner without bringing some other guy into the mix. Simply say ‘I love it when you do X’, or,  ‘Doing Y isn’t my favourite’. 

5. Be enthusiastic

We can’t stress this enough - if you don’t appear to be enjoying yourself, he’s going to have a hard time enjoying himself. 

It’s easy enough to show your enjoyment during parts of sex you love, so this tends to come up more often during times you might not be so into. Let’s be honest, for a lot of us that means blowjobs. 

His penis has been his favourite toy from childhood, and he wants you to enjoy it too. Think of it as like when you introduce a friend to your favourite movie - you love it so much you’re certain they will too, and you won’t enjoy the moment nearly as much if they don’t like the film. 

So moan, smile, be energetic, and show him how much you love his cock. 

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  • THORGODOFTHUNDE

    THORGODOFTHUNDE
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    Don't be shy to ask/tell for what you like/need, it turns me on to turn my partner on
    >4w
    • mattndanni

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      Oh my goodness there are others out there haha. I completely agree I get most excited and turned on when I know I am blowing his mind and watching him cum
      >4w
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  • mrmeaner39

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    over-the-top screaming is the worst. we feel like telling you to shut up, but of course we could never do that, but we sort of roll our eyes and grit our teeth at your pornstar theatrics.
    >4w
    • Khaleesi079

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      Much like us women have to roll our eyes & grit our teeth at the pornstar theatrics guys not only want to do to us but also think we like!!
      A guy slamming his fingers into a vagina thinking he's going to make her squirt or cum like in the porno is the worst, it's painful!!
      >4w
    • PinkCottonCandy

      PinkCottonCandy
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      Or when a man slaps your arse like in the pornos and they like we love it. Porn has ruined everyday normal sex. I had a love that only new how to have sex like he was in a porn film. Worst sex of my life!
      >4w
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  • serg685

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    just be yourself and if it works great and it doesn't ?you must it fucked up somewhere along the line.
    Sex is no competition or show off is FUN!! got it? cool jump in bed with your partner and enjoy it.
    >4w
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  • 2seawhatifine

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    Ok so im a girl there are a few things us girls don't like as well .When guys talk about there x. or tell you during sex how good they are. or when guys think it's ok to not wash and smell of b.o. or they brush there teeth. or are a star fish. And have no idea what to do.
    >4w
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  • BareNakedLady1

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    This article should also be directed at men - they make all these mistakes and then some!
    >4w
    • Avaaaa

      Avaaaa
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      The previous blog was about mistakes men make, that was fun to read too, check it out :)
      Due to popular demand mistakes women make was produced :)
      >4w
    • hotNexotic

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      maybe not all women do those mistakes but sure there are some. Especially "lack of confidence". It's a turn off for us
      >4w
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  • Photos in private gallery

    Uniqueguyhere
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    There's nothing worse in bed than being with a lady that can't ride. Seriously it's the biggest turn off. Just being honest here :-)
    Us men love having her on top so we can really appreciate and admire her body x
    >4w
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