Do Nice Guys Always Finish Last?

Yes this is a problem for us nice guys. It's a Darwin thing. Women are attracted to the Alpha male and it's a primal thing. As the lady says confidence can overcome a lot of problems. No woman wants a weak man. In our patriarchal society men are the ones expected to approach women and we have to learn to get used to rejection and pick ourselves off the floor and get back on the horse. A woman will never know she is rejected as she just wont be approached. How many of us men send out numerous carefully worded messages to girls on here only to have the message unread or have them immediately leave the conversation. It is was it is and no use complaining. It's a numbers games and the ratio of guys to girls is huge on all sites. The girls have all the choice and a lot of men are abusive and petulant when rejected hence the blocking and ghosting just to be on the safe side. I've found the best approach is to be yourself and I use my intelligence to whoo a lady. After all the brain is the largest sex organ. A lot of those Alpha males are shit in the sack anyway as it's all about them and they are often selfish lovers and full of their own bravado that just doesn't stack up. For the record I've had lots of compliments in the bedroom and had some women say to me how surprised they were and satisfied. So boys roll with that confidence and girls be a little more open to trying something different. You never know you might find something special.

Adult Matcher Maker, do know its a visual meduim what about good manned guys who are not so attractive where do they sit

I think nice guys don’t equal ugly or bad looking
Always believe in there’s someone for everyone. Chemistry is the big thing. Without chemistry, no matter how good looking the guy is, just won’t last for long.
However, for AMM, probably good looking will have the advantage.

I strive to cum last I think it’s just good manners ...

Just be yourself there are not enough nice guys out there to go around! Above average muscles and inside leg measurements generally only impress other guys!

Nice guys don't finish last: they finish third, right after the arrogant and the wealthy.

In the same way water finds its own level, nature plays matchmaker.

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  prettyg123

  More than a month ago

  That’s a genius answer. Lol
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  EppingGuy

  More than a month ago

  Evolutionary psychology & biology is the final arbitrator, cant really overcome it even with game or charm, if ya dont get a ladies juices flowing sex is not ment to be

dude just do you, the right women are out there. personally im not into your mates style of behaviour and would walk away in a heartbeat, i know my worth. be happy and confident in yourself and you'll be surprised how things change.

Never listen to what a woman says, watch what she does.

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  AmyF2016

  More than a month ago

  The same goes for guys too...actions always speak louder than words

Generalisation. Not the case for everyone. If you are ugly, then tough luck! I have been both the nice guy and the buff guy. With most women, looks plays a big role. It doesnt matter how nice you are to them or how much you do for them when you are the ugly duckling. In that case its either, friend zone, or catch ya later zone!

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  FatFeistyFun

  More than a month ago

  100% agree

I agree with @AugustusSeizer I recall when I wanted to learn Salsa. I went along to a night at Darling Harbour just to see what their social events were like and was fascinated that this one guy had women literally falling over themselves to dance with him. I reckon he could pick and choose who he went home with. Then recently I went with a group to a Latin night at Camelot Lounge in Sydney. There was an older man on the dance floor, short, bald, missing teeth lol but boy could he dance. He had the pick of ladies (including me who was lucky enough to be asked up 3 times) and he charmed us the whole time he was shakin' those hips. So guys learn something to impress her. Amie, is right, it is about confidence. Perhaps have a signature cocktail you can whip up, learn some dance moves, learn once of the romance languages or at least enough to impress in other words make an effort and don't just sit there bemoaning that you're a nice guy who never gets the girl. Also don't be a game player. The old adage "treat her mean and keep her keen" is fucked. Women like men who don't play games.

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  Account Closed

  More than a month ago

  "Women like men who don't play games." lol oh the irony!
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  willinged666

  More than a month ago

  hi how do u get confidence when u get blocked for just saying hi
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  AmyF2016

  More than a month ago

  @willinged666 thats the issue lately..a lot of guys on here just message hi and/or just message with access given to their private gallery...and in that instance my response is always the same...either I dont respond..or I point out it takes a lot more than that to engage me....regardless how "hot" the profile photos are.
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  Account Closed

  More than a month ago

  Getting blocked for saying hi depends on your profile and your manners.
  We will block a guy straight away if his profile says he is only looking for a woman, regardless of how eloquent he may be, we are a couple.
  A guy winking us asking us to message him will result in blocking. We have paid for our membership, cough up and pay for yours.
  Also a pet hate is when we send a polite wink saying no thanks and the guy keeps winking or messaging, that will get you blocked.

Yeah, you’re just slightly off the mark there. It’s about context. In a more public setting, that nice guy might have more of a chance, depending on the type of people around him.
But on a site like this- as most people are not seeking serious relationships (purely), the bar is raised far higher and if you’re not attractive enough and so on - you just don’t stand a chance. It doesn’t help with the blown out ratio of men to women either.
But good try to convince people that the saying doesn’t hold in forums like this.

i think be yourself strange and its true i am or was bad yet people that talk to u see you not the bad boy image u look wrong sites or places think this no one is better than you and self confidence is what "bad boy" has u will find girls that are not second best but better than others

It's the vibe man and be a hot ape humour open posture touch attention proximity eye contact smile be able to dance listen smile kiss

Or learn to dance. Simple, direct ballroom. Then progress to tango.

I saw a documentary once - something to do with bio-diversity in the Congo. In passing we saw the researchers (some Europeans, Canadians, South Americans and their local university hosts) hanging out after a long day of field work. Some of the visitors were demonstrating tango moves. They collected an audience of swooning, almost drooling onlookers. We're talking about a village in the middle of Nowhere, the Congo equivalent of Kickakanalong, right? Waaaay beyond the Black Stump. And the local girls were mesmerised by these South American dancers. They were falling over themselves to get a turn - with a balding middle aged scientist with a paunch who could move like a god.

My hypothesis is that being able to offer to teach a woman proper tango dancing will pull anywhere in the world. Inuit (Eskimo) winter clothing may make it awkward but I have no doubt tango would pull above the Arctic Circle too. Ladies, disabuse me of my theory if you think I'm wrong.

But it takes work. It takes the same kind of determination that training for hard sport takes. Do you *want* the Pulling Secret Weapon? How much will you work for it? *grin*

you should live in the real world

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  Account Closed

  More than a month ago

  Of course we always finish last Too many Fussy woman and couples on here they want perfect But News Flash No One is Perfect!
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  Account Closed

  More than a month ago

  Propaganda, 'image,' marketing perception & fantasies, all appeal to the fancifool & ignorant, especially if all they know is from 'populist culture,' in predominately commercial media, which reflects the most broadest common denominator what captures/retains interest/entertainment, in most cases to ultimately flog useless merchandise.
  
  The 'bad boi' image is prevalent is so much material, 'nice guys,' are simply not as 'interesting,' even if they are well informed individuals, that can contribute critical thought learned by life, not 'politically correct,' mediocre crap reinforced/broadcast within/for promulgating boring mediocrity that requires buggerall effort, gradually 'dumbing society down,' compared to our ancestors. Maybe that is what the ruling influencers want, compliant docile breeding stock, but that is another story, where maybe the 'bad boi'/rebel/acute subordination may have a deep-rooted appeal against all the repressive 'norms.'
  
  In my life's experience, most times the arrogant selfish 'peacocking'/twat gets 'the girl,' not necessarily the fully formed independent thinking 'woman.' Unfortunately for many, its 'too late' when folks 'wake up.'
  
  Good luck to whatever happens, enjoy life if you can, its only temporary.